1. I don’t have to have everything in my life sorted right now.
I remember just a few years ago thinking 20 was some sort of magical age where everything would fall into place and I’d have my life sorted already. It’s not… But thats okay.
2. To stop taking myself so seriously.
Okay, I’m still working on this one. But I’ve kind of just realised that life doesn’t have to be so serious. I always expect way too much from myself and get way too worked up about everything, I’m slowly learning to tone it down a bit.
3. To be more adventurous with my outfits.
I’ve always had a ‘quirky’ taste in clothes, but there have always been those couple of outfits I thought were too ‘out there’ for me to pull off. Screw that, because ultimately I’ve learnt to stop being so anxious about what other people think of me and how I look. If I think I look good then I look gooooood.
4. Home-made bacon and egg muffins fucking amazing.
Seriously, these are my go to ‘meal’ right now. Toast a breakfast muffin, fry an egg, grill some bacon until its crispy as hell and voila! Thank me later.
5. Not everyone is going to like me or what I do.
I’ve always been a people pleaser, I just can’t stand the idea of people not liking me. But lets face it, it’s completely unrealistic for everyone you ever meet to like you. I think I’ve actually become a happier person now I don’t care so much about pleasing people.
6. To be more motivated.
Now I know I said further up that I don’t need to have everything in my life sorted quite yet (which is still true) but I can set myself up. This year I’ve been making it my mission to really get out there and start doing more, whether it’s working on my freelancing or getting back into my blog.
7. My bedroom will never not be messy.
I thought by now I would be this fully bloomed adult who only had furniture and white aesthetically pleasing things in their room. Well here I am at 20, moved out, with band posters on my walls and the majority of my wardrobe on my floor…
8. Cheese is bloody expensive.
Since moving away to uni and living sans parents I have learnt many things. The most devastating of which is how much half decent cheddar costs.
9. I should probably start eating healthier.
As someone who lives on a diet that consists primarily of cheesy beans on toast in a world of avocado loving gym freaks, I’ve come to realise I should probably start eating a vegetable once in a while…
10. Being in a relationship at uni is not lame.
I always thought I would spend my uni years going on strings of dates and chilling in my own company. I found myself in a relationship pretty quickly after starting my first year of uni and there are a lot of people that would say being committed so young is silly, you should be out partying and doing ‘stupid young person stuff.’
Honestly, I’m happier now than I have ever been. If you’re with the right person then you can still do all the same stupid stuff as everyone else, you just get to do it with an equally stupid person next to you. I’m happy, and I’m not about to stop what I’m doing because other people tell me I should be out pulling one night stands.
11. To stop comparing myself to other people my age.
I’m pretty sure everyone is guilty of this, but I can never help looking at someone else the same age as me (or younger!) who is doing particularly well, and being jealous or feeling like I’ve failed. Everyone moves at their own pace, and I’m starting to learn how to change those crappy feelings into motivation to better myself.
12. Not to hold grudges.
This isn’t to say I don’t dislike people, because don’t get me wrong there are a fair few people I really do not like (yeah you know who you are). What I mean by this is that I’ve realised that although I have had crappy friends and shitty ex’s, they’ve helped make me who I am today. It sounds cheesy but its true! Being cheated on ultimately improved my self-worth after I realised how pathetic I had been in the aftermath, and having some shitty friendships has stopped me from being such a pushover.
So fuck you and thank you to those who helped shape me.
13. Don’t be afraid to ask for help or admit defeat.
I’ve always been terrible at this, but I’m getting better. I hate not being able to do something or the idea of letting someone down. But sometimes you have to, you’ve got to ask for help or tell someone you’re not able to do something. Nobody will judge you for needing help.
14. Mum is always right.
It took me a long time to realise this (sorry mum) but you’re right about pretty much everything. Sure we may not always see eye to eye on my latest outfit or hair style, but I keep finding myself saying or thinking something before having a mental ‘god I sound like my mum’ moment and realising that yup, once again, you were right about something.
15. It’s okay that my friendship group has totally changed.
Just a couple of years a go I would never have imagined that my entire friendship circle would be different. Moving across the country to attend university obviously made it harder to see friends from back home, and I felt bad to begin with that I didn’t see anyone. But then I slowly realised that I now have an entirely new and stronger group of friends than ever before. Sure, it would be great to see people from back home and I still keep in touch with a couple of them, but this is a new chapter with new people.
16. The people on their laptops in Starbucks are onto something…
Yeah it is so cliche, sitting in a cafe on your laptop being all indie and what not. But seriously, taking yourself for a coffee date with your laptop is fab. I’m always so much more productive when I’m out, a change of environment is always the best to spur on some creativity.
17. It’s okay to be selfish sometimes.
Obviously there is a time and a place, but you’ve got to remember to put yourself first sometimes. Do things for you, don’t worry about other people every once in a while.
18. Sometimes you need to vent it all out over a coffee.
Okay, so in my case a hot chocolate or a cup of tea, but at least once a week I always make sure to have time for a coffee date with my darling Tess. Having a primarily male friendship circle ‘girl time’ is definitely needed. Sometimes it just makes everything a little bit better to have a rant over a hot drink.
19. Ask questions.
This sounds kinda silly, but honestly, question everything. I used to be too self conscious to ask questions in class or if someone said something I didn’t understand. You’ll learn a lot from asking questions, once you realise nobody is going to judge you for asking.
20. Everything happens for a reason.
This is something I always tell myself (especially in a crappy situation). If something bad happens or something doesn’t go my way, it’s because something better is coming along. It’s a pretty motivating way of thinking.